Self-Confidence and Social Media

I was out to dinner with a friend the other night who also works in web marketing. She was talking about some of her favorite follows on Twitter — she, however, does not tweet.

In discussing this, she framed it in the context of confidence. Some of the people whose posts she likes to read the most, she explained, have the confidence to post about something profound or dramatic one moment and something entirely mundane (such as being in line at Starbucks) the next. She painted herself as more conservative in her approach to Twitter, leading to her quiet yet watchful presence.

My response was that exercising the wisdom not to tweet, as a function of not feeling you have anything to add, is also a type of confidence. Tweeting to fill the void or because you feel like you “should” is just insecurity. And to the rest of us, it’s just noise.

We all have different roles in this space. Some of us (myself included) are the loud ones. Others are the quiet ones. But both types are needed to keep things humming along.

Photo by maha-online, Flickr/Creative Commons


4 responses to “Self-Confidence and Social Media

  1. Interesting comment. I also enjoy those who tweet random stuff along side great topical content. For me, its the random stuff – no mundane crap, but personal interactions – that make Twitter so great. I feel like those random ‘WTF’ or ‘Holy S$#%’ moments we experience all alone in life are now immediately shared instead of stored stories that lose their flavor as time passes and they are told later.

    • Oh, I agree, and I think that’s what my friend was getting at — that it takes confidence to be mundane. And I don’t mean mundane in the pejorative sense.

  2. It’s so hard to figure out what’s an interesting mundane observation to place alongside the info posts and what’s just nattering about small stuff to hear oneself talk.

  3. To borrow John Milton’s line: “They also serve who only stand and wait.” Like a cocktail party or any other social function, you’ll have people who do most of the talking and entertaining, but if there’s no audience, no one listening, it’s more like, well, Congress.

    Referring back to my blog entry on overcommunication, there are people who rarely say anything on Twitter so whose tweets stand out more for that reason. It works however one prefers to use it. Some folks I do unfollow for reasons like decided to live-tweet _every sentence_ a speaker said, or those who fall in love with themselves and make every tweet self-promotional. And I’ll be tempted to unfollow the people at SXSW who keep screeching “Looook at meeeeee,” now with Foursquare bonus narcissism. But some people could tweet hundreds of times a day, on seemingly mundane topics, and still be interesting.

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